Expert Advice for Couples’ Sexual Disharmony Problems
Discover Australian couples therapist Isiah McKimmie's practical and empathetic solutions for couples struggling with sexual problems. Here's how to increase sexual harmony and libido in relationships!
Relationships involve various dynamics and sexual harmony is an important issue for couples. Isiah McKimmie, an Australian couples therapist, sexologist and sex therapist, offers guidance to couples who are having problems in their sexual lives. McKimmie emphasizes that differences in sexual desire levels are common in relationships and that this is often due to expectations.
Differences in Sexual Desire and Libido Fluctuations
According to McKimmie, differences in desire between couples pose one of the biggest challenges in relationships. “Libido changes at different times of life. Sometimes these changes can be sudden and serious, in which case it’s important to understand the underlying causes,” says McKimmie.
Loss of libido in men can be particularly challenging. It can challenge men’s sense of masculinity and self-worth, leading to feelings of shame and helplessness. It is also difficult for their partners, as it breaks a common stereotype – that men always have a great interest in sex.
Four Tips for Improving the Bedroom
McKimmie offers some suggestions to help couples overcome these challenges:
Empathize: Acknowledge that you are both struggling and respect each other’s feelings and perspectives. This strengthens your relationship and increases your ability to solve problems as a team.
Emotional and Physical Health: Try to understand any physical or psychological factors that may be affecting your partner’s libido. Talking to a trusted doctor can help identify the causes and solutions to this condition.
Building Strong Bonds: Research shows that strong, loving and secure bonds are key to a good sex life in the long run. Maintaining emotional and physical intimacy with your partner strengthens this bond.
Taking Practical Steps: Make sexual intimacy a priority in your relationship and revitalize your relationship with practical steps in this area. Planning for intimacy when you’re not tired or exploring activities that increase your partner’s desire can enrich your relationship.
McKimmie’s suggestions can help couples overcome sexual compatibility issues. Differences in sexual desire do not imply a lack of love or attraction; rather, acknowledging and working through them can deepen a couple’s commitment to each other.
